Valentine’s is just around the corner. Have you been putting together a surprise for your hubby or having a hard time like everyone else?
Others might say, it’s just another day. People don’t celebrate it anymore. Love is hard to find. Truth be told…speed dating events are full by now and plenty more hopefuls queuing up to get a chance to meet “the one”.
But what about if you’re one of those unlucky ones that just got her heart broken? How do you pick up the pieces?
Breakups are painful, no matter who you are and no matter what the situation is. You can be left heartbroken and trying to figure out what happened without many answers.
Easier said than done, but there is no other way but to move on. But’s that’s not the case for most people. Either way, your life is suddenly a lot different.
We all heal in different ways and times but somehow someway we all get there, wake up one day and decide enough is enough, it is time.
Experience really teaches you lessons you’ll never learn in school especially when it comes to the matters of the heart.
So with this, I share with you my top 10 tips on how to heal a broken heart.
1. Cry it all out.
Cry buckets of tears, scream, run, stay in bed the whole day…nobody will judge you. That’s OK. Let your body release all those stress hormones.
But once it’s all done, wipe those tears and clear your mind.
2. Acknowledge the breakup.
Accept that it is over…the sooner you do this, the easier it becomes. Don’t deny it never happened, don’t think that it’s just temporary.
Face it head on and learn from it.
3. Reflect on what you learned.
Look back on all the things that happened, good and bad memories you shared. Pick up the good learnings and discard those that won’t help you in the future.
Remember, there is always something to learn from people and circumstances that happen in our lifetime.
4. Forgive.
Forgive your ex but most important of all is forgive yourself first.
Don’t play the blame game and think that you had no fault in the relationship. Nobody’s perfect right?
5. Remove them from your life.
This is not to say that you have to give back all the gifts and stuff that remind you of him or her. It is important to be thankful for everything that you have shared together.
But you have to distance yourself from them so that the wound won’t keep opening up again coz it will be harder for you to bounce back.
6. Spend time with your friends and family.
You call them friends and family for a reason. They are there for you through good times and bad times.
Enjoy their company, join in and surround yourself with people that provide you with unconditional love.
7. Enjoy your single life.
Being single is not too bad. You are free to do anything you want…no need to think about anyone else but you.
It might seem odd at first but you’ll get used to it. Plan a trip, enjoy your hobbies back when you were still single, try new things and be bold.
8. Take care of yourself.
You’ve taken a lot of beating internally. Self-care goes a long day during these hard times.
Help your body recover by taking care of it. Go for a pampering session. Have a facial, full body massage, paint your nails, go on a shopping spree.
Make yourself feel good and loved.
9. Decide to start new.
When all is done and dusted, time to start planning. Take out that pen and paper and start writing.
Set goals, have a to-do list, set a timeline for each. Challenge yourself to be more and embrace your new “you”.
10. Focus on the future.
Move on and focus on the road ahead. Things will be better. It will not be smooth but if you put your mind into it, success will come in no time. And at the most unexpected moment in your life, maybe the right one will just be around the corner waiting.
You might ask…who are you to give this advice? You are a massage therapist after all. Well…exactly! As much as I provide self-care and empowerment through touch to most of my clients, I’ve also built a genuine relationship with them where we learn from each other during our sessions. And I’m also just like you…I’ve fallen in love and got my heart broken too. Still no luck..but forever hopeful.
